You can counteract it by introducing matrimony.
I have found this to be an effective cure for all those annoying ailments of olde (passion, excitement, unbridled optimism, lust for life, freedom, et al).
You can counteract it by introducing matrimony.
I have some questions for you: why are you hanging out with her? Is she really a good friend to you, or do you just go out with her because you're hoping THIS will be the time when you will be able to make your move? Do you honestly enjoy her company, or is she just a fantasy for you?
The thing is, if you try to force the situation, and it isn't what she wants, you will lose her as a friend (assuming that's what she is now). Do you want that? And what if your dream situation comes true, and she really does leave her boyfriend for you... but remains conflicted about it? If she's not ready to make that decision, then forcing your timetable on her is simply not going to work.
Ideally, yes. For better or worse, with a lot of women that is a recipe to make her redouble her efforts. Go for it if you want more attention. Should you want less, and I can't why you would, follow her around like a puppy.
sh*t or get off the pot.
I've finally reached the age where I've developed some immunity to a pretty smile. It's not too often that I'm grateful to be as old as I am, but this is one of those times!
A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away, I met a lovely young lady who handled her relationship with me much like your acquaintence does with you. She was engaged to a guy, but kept encouraging me to hang around.....and, because I was young and foolish, I did hang around.
Long story short, I'm still hanging around, but now her relationship is with me (and has been for the last 40+ years).
Moral: Stay with it, but be prepared for the consequences of success.
Pine wood burns bright and fast. Oak burns a lot hotter but much slower. My advise, step away for a few weeks and see if there is still a fire.
and use good matches? Blake..are you SURE you posted to the right forum?
I can tell you from personal experience that barmaids are not worth it.
A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away, I met a lovely young lady who handled her relationship with me much like your acquaintence does with you. She was engaged to a guy, but kept encouraging me to hang around.....and, because I was young and foolish, I did hang around.
Long story short, I'm still hanging around, but now her relationship is with me (and has been for the last 40+ years).
Good luck, I hope it all goes to plan and sounds like one hell of an emotional journey.
Keep sane!
Does she still count as a barmaid if she's got a business degree, works at a company she's currently taking over, bought herself a house on money she earned working two jobs, and has proclaimed she's "not one of those girls that's going to be a bartender forever"? There was something about needing a job that's "mentally engaging" in there... I've never heard those words from a girl but they're apparently out there.
Yeah it keeps getting better, I asked her out to dinner and she said her boyfriend "would probably break up with me." She seemed... I can't really tell, she didn't seem overly happy but she seemed less than annoyed. I told her I'm not giving up... she really doesn't seem to mind. She really doesn't seem capable of forcing the smile off her face when I talk to her.
The plot thickens.
They just bought a house together (this is her boyfriend, not some guy she's engaged to, ***?).
Dude, you see her 1 hour a week only while she's working, she bought a house with some other guy. She's "a hot vip waitress". Business degree or not, she's a professional flirter and you're just a customer.
Cut your losses and get out.