Just get it. She will learn or she won't drive it. I finally did that in 2008 and not only did my wife learn, but now she prefers it and we got one for her daily driver.But it was " no no no " to manual trans.
and the reason was " what if you had a heart attack, what would I do ?. The answer I gave was did you ever think about trying
to learn how to drive one....Nuf said.
be well,
Supercoop