As some of you may remember, about a 9 months ago my MIL invited my husbands ex-fiance' on a camping weekend with my family. I was a bit mad to say the least. My husband is too laid back and can not handle conflict. He will not fight or argue even if he knows he is right. That is part of the reason we get along. I am always right : )
We have full custody of his son, not from the woman above. The mother of this child is the worlds biggest loser. She is 45 just landed a job, no car, no home only a traveling box. She is horrible to me. I get cussed out weekly if not more. I have been more than nice to her but I finally cut her off. She even tells her son horrible stuff about me. He is smart enough to realize the things she says are untrue but they are still being said to a little boy. I myself realize she is just envious of me. I have both of her boys. Oh and a house and a car and I need not go on. LOL
Now the problem is the MIL. How many times is it acceptable for you MIL to talk to spouses ex-girlfriends about your family? My husbands mother can not keep her trap shut for nothing. In the past she has shared small details like my brothers work schedules to big things, when my husband and I were planning children.
This week the ex called and knew of my mothers health condition. Do we care? No. My problem is I am unsure why my family whether it be, myself, children, husband, parents, siblings etc are a subject of conversation between my MIL and my husbands ex-girlfriend. I must add this is the same woman who ran out of state with his son and the courts had to force her back here. She also called one day stating their son had been run over by a truck. The boy was a baby at the time. I have been his mother since he was just under 2. He calls me me Mommy and his real mother by name. So there is no excuse of trying to keep a good relationship this woman she is trash.
I have asked the MIL in person, in writing, through my husband and jointly not to talk about my family with my son's mother. She keeps doing it. My husband is an only child and he would never want to hurt his mother but I do not really have a problem doing it considering she is constantly talking about our private life. She wants to come over and see my kids Thursday night. Do I allow her?
My thoughts are, NO. What can I trust her with? Will she be reading my mail or looking at my checkbook to talk about it. My husband will not fight me on this if I decide I do not want her around, once again because he does not want conflict. I just want to make sure I am not being unreasonable. Thoughts?
We have full custody of his son, not from the woman above. The mother of this child is the worlds biggest loser. She is 45 just landed a job, no car, no home only a traveling box. She is horrible to me. I get cussed out weekly if not more. I have been more than nice to her but I finally cut her off. She even tells her son horrible stuff about me. He is smart enough to realize the things she says are untrue but they are still being said to a little boy. I myself realize she is just envious of me. I have both of her boys. Oh and a house and a car and I need not go on. LOL
Now the problem is the MIL. How many times is it acceptable for you MIL to talk to spouses ex-girlfriends about your family? My husbands mother can not keep her trap shut for nothing. In the past she has shared small details like my brothers work schedules to big things, when my husband and I were planning children.
This week the ex called and knew of my mothers health condition. Do we care? No. My problem is I am unsure why my family whether it be, myself, children, husband, parents, siblings etc are a subject of conversation between my MIL and my husbands ex-girlfriend. I must add this is the same woman who ran out of state with his son and the courts had to force her back here. She also called one day stating their son had been run over by a truck. The boy was a baby at the time. I have been his mother since he was just under 2. He calls me me Mommy and his real mother by name. So there is no excuse of trying to keep a good relationship this woman she is trash.
I have asked the MIL in person, in writing, through my husband and jointly not to talk about my family with my son's mother. She keeps doing it. My husband is an only child and he would never want to hurt his mother but I do not really have a problem doing it considering she is constantly talking about our private life. She wants to come over and see my kids Thursday night. Do I allow her?
My thoughts are, NO. What can I trust her with? Will she be reading my mail or looking at my checkbook to talk about it. My husband will not fight me on this if I decide I do not want her around, once again because he does not want conflict. I just want to make sure I am not being unreasonable. Thoughts?