Gentleman’s Essentials - Etiquette when escorting a lady

Stand up when a lady enters a room, is standing or stands up.

Offer a lady your seat if no others are available.

Assist a lady with her chair when she sits down or stands.

If she droped someting, pick it up.

Open doors for a lady and let her go first. If it is a revolving door aid in pushing it for her then proceed when she is on the other side.

As for the Push Door, open it and let her go through. She may brush up against you, this is a complement.

Help a lady with her coat.

Offer to bring a lady a drink, or make her the cocktail of her choice.

Offer your arm to escort a lady into or out of a room and whenever walking side by side (if possible). Only offer your hand if you are in a relationship.

Tip your hat to a lady when she greets you in public, even if it is a ball cap and say morning/afternoon/evening Ma’am (the Texans got this one right).

Offer to pay for meals, drinks, etc. If she refuses do not let her pay for yours.

If you are escorting her home do not ask to come in. Instead say good night and have a slight motion forward towards her, if she dose not respond you are not getting any but if she follows you to your place offer a nightcap (if she is coming with you, you got it made...).

Let her order for herself and let her order first.

If driving let her pick the radio station (not too many chicks dig Black Flag).

Let her also pick the movie/restaurant/activity. If she refuses take her someplace you think she would enjoy (not to shoot pool, unless she is a shark).

From Burnwood.

An escalator. going up you let her go first. going down you go first to stop her is she falls.

Getting in a cab, you go first so you have to slide across the dirty seat.

Updated from members posting.

One should always walk on the 'road' side of the lady - so she's protected from the traffic on the road - if you cross the road to the other side you should swap sides so you're once again 'road' side.

When exiting a restaurant, the woman should lead. Likewise entering or exiting an elevator.

Also the puddle thing, escort her around it don't lay your coat down but use your coat to sheild her from a splashing vehicle.

If it turns cold or rains and she's coatless, offer her yours

Always look at her at the in the eyes.

If a woman invites you over to her place for dinner. Make sure after the meal you clean the table and do the dishes for her.

One should always walk on the 'road' side of the lady - so she's protected from the traffic on the road - if you cross the road to the other side you should swap sides so you're once again 'road' side.

SepticTank said:

One should always walk on the 'road' side of the lady - so she's protected from the traffic on the road - if you cross the road to the other side you should swap sides so you're once again 'road' side.

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Dang forgot that one.

Also the puddle thing, escort her around it don't lay your coat down.

But use your coat to sheild her from a splashing vehicle.

When exiting a restaurant, the woman should lead. Likewise entering or exiting an elevator.

Mottern Man said:

Open doors for a lady and let her go first. If it is a revolving door aid in pushing it for her then proceed when she is on the other side.

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Good summary!

Re: door opening - I was taught that if it's a pull-to-open door, open it and let the lady go through. If it's a push-to-open door, go through first and hold it for her to go through.

Comments?

Another one - if perchance it turns cold or rains and she's coatless, offer her your coat/jacket/jumper - you might well end up freezing your soda, but she'll probably appreciate it.

Always look at her at the in the eyes... you pervert

Isaias said:

Always look at her at the in the eyes... you pervert

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Ha! Good tip Isaias.

Guys,

Here a great tip if a woman invite you over to her place for dinner. Make sure after the meal you clean the table and do the dishes for her. They love it when a guy does that.

The act pays for itself tenfold.

David

Thanks Will. Well-done.
It is a wonderful Thread. Would it be possible to add the extra tips from othrs users as an extra line to the end of your post. Thanks.

Kingram said:

Thanks Will. Well-done.
It is a wonderful Thread. Would it be possible to add the extra tips from othrs users as an extra line to the end of your post. Thanks.

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Done

Hi all,

I just happened to come across this thread & was wowed by the fact that there are still gentlemen out there.

I would have liked to contribute more to this site, but it seems it's only about shaving? LOL

Seems to have a lot of forums & posts in here just on the topic of shaving.

Thanks


Michelle

Wow. I don't know where to begin with this one, but I'm sure I have some addenda to add.

ouch said:

Wow. I don't know where to begin with this one, but I'm sure I have some addenda to add.

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A gentleman never tries using big words to impress a lady.

Mottern Man said:

Done

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Thanks.

sensualspirit said:

Hi all,

I would have liked to contribute more to this site, but it seems it's only about shaving? LOL

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A man's perspective on what it means to be a gentleman. It would be very interesting to get a view from the other side. To get a perspective from the womans point of view on the etiquette of a lady when in the company of a gentleman.

-- This is a great thread. Well done!

Gosh, I thought it was just normal to do all of these.

Actually, to comment on this one...

"Let her also pick the movie/restaurant/activity. If she refuses take her someplace you think she would enjoy (not to shoot pool, unless she is a shark)."

In a relationship (this isn't really the same thing as what's being discussed here, as it sounds like this is only when a man is courting a woman), I look for a man who has enough of an imagination, that he picks the activities 50% of the time.

Since I believe a relationship is 100/100%, this is important, since the only men I've ever had a relationship with have always expected ME to pick activities b/c I'm picky, am talented in this area & used to have a great imagination.

I know this was b/c they weren't very smart or had much of an imagination, or were lazy (yeh, I picked real winners in the past LOL), but I think a lot of men think this way & it's rare to find a man who can plan an evening that is exciting & interesting.

Yes I agree he needs to keep the woman in mind. This would be common sense, but, not everyone has common sense.

If a couple can't find at least 10-15 activities they can both enjoy together, I question whether they are compatible enough.

Thoughts?


Michelle

This is interesting - I think it's also a somewhat dated list. Of course, I'm fairly progressive in my thinking, perhaps. I tend to think that the rules for me are as follows-

Whoever I'm with, try to open the doors for that person. Man, woman, child. It's polite. If someone opens a door for me, I thank them directly.

Offer ANYONE my seat- I sit in a chair all day at the office, so ANY chance to stand, I'm so absolutely there.

Never take the last of ANYTHING.

I never assist anyone with pushing in a chair, as I think it's something that you can only truly pull off if you're really good at timing. Otherwise you're either knocking the person down or they miss the chair. I WILL, however, alway pull out a chair for someone next to me.

I always offer to pay for food and drinks, but (and this is the important thing to remember) I NEVER ever ever turn down another person's offer if it's sincere. Of course there's a bit of "Oh no, I've got it." "You can't, it's my turn" yadda yadda. I will NEVER allow someone to buy for me more than once without reciprocation, however. My girlfriend is offended if I don't let her pay half the time - she makes plenty of money, and likes to spend it on US, just like I do. It's a nice thing for each of us.

"If driving let her pick the radio station (not too many chicks dig Black Flag)." <-- my girlfriend does. (yes, I gloat about that quite a bit )

I think that there are certain things that perhaps we SHOULD do as men for women a bit more, just out of politeness - but I tend to, as a rule, try to treat EVERYONE with that level of courtesy and respect. I have always lived by the idea that we should treat people BETTER than we would expect to be treated in return.

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to stand, I'm so absolutely there.

Never take the last of ANYTHING.

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You can take the last beer or the last piece of pizza, just not both.