General Etiquette:
Be sure to turn off or silence your cell phone; you are in the company of others. Take your hat off at the table. Sit upright in your chair with your feet flat on the floor. Do not rock your chair back.
Once seated, the napkin goes in your lap. If you must leave the table, excuse yourself politely and place the napkin on your chair. It is acceptable to rest your forearms on the table. It is not, however, acceptable to place your elbows on the table.
If someone is hosting, wait for him or her to start eating before you do, unless he or she tells you otherwise. Also, dont start eating until every person has been served. An exception to this is if those who were not served request you begin without waiting.
When passing anything on the table, always pass to the right. Never reach across the table.
Work from the outside in with silverware. If present, the outside fork is for salad, the next one in is for the entrée, etc. Your fork may be held in either hand, but when cutting, the fork goes in the left hand. The blade of your knife should be placed on the edge of your plate when you arent using it (with the sharp part facing the inside of the plate). A used piece of silverware should never be placed back on the table. When you finish eating soup, or stirring tea/coffee that is in a saucer, place the used spoon on the soup plate/saucer.
Dont blow on any food (to cool it down) and dont slurp soups. While no one really pays attention, the proper way to eat soup is to spoon the soup away from you. Tip the bowl away from you to polish off the soup.
When eating meat and other foods that need to be sliced before consumption only slice a couple of pieces at a time. Do not cut up the entire slab of steak before eating from it.
Do not speak with your mouth full. Take smaller bites so you dont look like a ravenous animal and so you can respond to questions in a timely, non-embarrassing manner when the opportunity presents itself.
When you have finished eating, place your utensils onto your plate with the handles hanging slightly off the edge at the 4:00 position. The tips of the utensils should be near the center of the plate and the blade of the knife should be pointing towards you.
Try to keep pace with everyone else so that you finish with the majority of the group (you dont want to be the last one eating and you dont want to be the first one done either).
Setting a Table:
When setting a table, the bread plate/salad is placed above and left of the main plate. The beverage(s) are set on the right. If a bread knife is to be used, it should be placed on the bread plate with the handle pointing to the right.
Forks and the napkin are placed to the left of the main plate. If a salad is to be served, the salad fork should be to the left of the main fork. Soup spoons and knives are placed on the right of the main plate, with the soup spoon on the outside of the knife. Dessert utensils should be placed above the plate, or simply served with desert. Remember to only set cutlery that will be required for the meal.
Wine glasses are typically placed directly above the knife with the water glass to the left of it. Coffee mugs or teacups are placed to the right of the setting with the cups handle and the handle of the spoon pointing right.
When in a restaurant:
To signal the waiter, subtly wave your hand. Never snap your fingers or yell for your waiter. Asking for recommendations is perfectly fine, but dont say something along the lines of whats good?
If youre in a fancy restaurant with bussers and waiters, you can let the busser know you want bread or water, but do not try to order other drinks or food from him/her.
In high-end restaurants, never, ever add anything to a meal that has been prepared by a chef. This is insulting to the chef. If youre really set on adding something (such as salt, pepper, etc.), taste what you were given first before doing so. What Im really trying to get at here is that you should trust the seasonings used by the chef. (If you go to a hamburger joint, its perfectly fine to put ketchup on your burger).
Be sure to turn off or silence your cell phone; you are in the company of others. Take your hat off at the table. Sit upright in your chair with your feet flat on the floor. Do not rock your chair back.
Once seated, the napkin goes in your lap. If you must leave the table, excuse yourself politely and place the napkin on your chair. It is acceptable to rest your forearms on the table. It is not, however, acceptable to place your elbows on the table.
If someone is hosting, wait for him or her to start eating before you do, unless he or she tells you otherwise. Also, dont start eating until every person has been served. An exception to this is if those who were not served request you begin without waiting.
When passing anything on the table, always pass to the right. Never reach across the table.
Work from the outside in with silverware. If present, the outside fork is for salad, the next one in is for the entrée, etc. Your fork may be held in either hand, but when cutting, the fork goes in the left hand. The blade of your knife should be placed on the edge of your plate when you arent using it (with the sharp part facing the inside of the plate). A used piece of silverware should never be placed back on the table. When you finish eating soup, or stirring tea/coffee that is in a saucer, place the used spoon on the soup plate/saucer.
Dont blow on any food (to cool it down) and dont slurp soups. While no one really pays attention, the proper way to eat soup is to spoon the soup away from you. Tip the bowl away from you to polish off the soup.
When eating meat and other foods that need to be sliced before consumption only slice a couple of pieces at a time. Do not cut up the entire slab of steak before eating from it.
Do not speak with your mouth full. Take smaller bites so you dont look like a ravenous animal and so you can respond to questions in a timely, non-embarrassing manner when the opportunity presents itself.
When you have finished eating, place your utensils onto your plate with the handles hanging slightly off the edge at the 4:00 position. The tips of the utensils should be near the center of the plate and the blade of the knife should be pointing towards you.
Try to keep pace with everyone else so that you finish with the majority of the group (you dont want to be the last one eating and you dont want to be the first one done either).
Setting a Table:
When setting a table, the bread plate/salad is placed above and left of the main plate. The beverage(s) are set on the right. If a bread knife is to be used, it should be placed on the bread plate with the handle pointing to the right.
Forks and the napkin are placed to the left of the main plate. If a salad is to be served, the salad fork should be to the left of the main fork. Soup spoons and knives are placed on the right of the main plate, with the soup spoon on the outside of the knife. Dessert utensils should be placed above the plate, or simply served with desert. Remember to only set cutlery that will be required for the meal.
Wine glasses are typically placed directly above the knife with the water glass to the left of it. Coffee mugs or teacups are placed to the right of the setting with the cups handle and the handle of the spoon pointing right.
When in a restaurant:
To signal the waiter, subtly wave your hand. Never snap your fingers or yell for your waiter. Asking for recommendations is perfectly fine, but dont say something along the lines of whats good?
If youre in a fancy restaurant with bussers and waiters, you can let the busser know you want bread or water, but do not try to order other drinks or food from him/her.
In high-end restaurants, never, ever add anything to a meal that has been prepared by a chef. This is insulting to the chef. If youre really set on adding something (such as salt, pepper, etc.), taste what you were given first before doing so. What Im really trying to get at here is that you should trust the seasonings used by the chef. (If you go to a hamburger joint, its perfectly fine to put ketchup on your burger).