Kevdogg's inspirational Weight Loss thread

FoolishMortal said:

Okay. It was one day. Choose to make today different.

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+1. You can't undo yesterday, so there's no need to dwell on it or to beat yourself up or to use it as an excuse to be over today. Be intentional today.

I know it sounds hokey (think Stuart Smalley), but have you ever tried a mantra for yourself? Something along the lines of "I'm worthy, I'm loveable, and I deserve to take care of myself through good food and exercize choices"? Say it to outloud three times in a row every day as you look at yourself in the mirror. It will add all of about 10 seconds to your morning routine. You'll eventually start to believe it and will then make better choices for yourself.

Hi Kev.
Are you currently getting psychiatric help? There could be several reasons why you're regularly consuming 5000+ calories a day & it isn't because you're hungry.

zygalski said:

Hi Kev.
Are you currently getting psychiatric help? There could be several reasons why you're regularly consuming 5000+ calories a day & it isn't because you're hungry.

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No I am not. I'm not crazy.

You don't need to be crazy to see a psychiatrist. That's crazy talk.
If the word psychiatrist is freaking you out, would therapist be better?

kevdogg329 said:

No I am not. I'm not crazy.

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This has nothing to do with you being crazy.
There are psychological triggers that cause you to turn to food. If you can talk to someone in confidence about your life who is trained to deal with such issues then you could well find that the root causes of your eating disorder can be dealt with.
As suggested earlier, hypnotherapy is another method which has been shown to work for many people with eating disorders.
Posting "oh well, tomorrow's another day" on a shaving forum isn't really helping you deal with the issue of regularly consuming twice as many calories as you need.
If you value your family & friends & want to tackle this problem head on, does it not make sense to explore all the options open to you, especially if they've been demonstrated to work for many thousands of people in your situation?

zygalski said:

This has nothing to do with you being crazy.
There are psychological triggers that cause you to turn to food. If you can talk to someone in confidence about your life who is trained to deal with such issues then you could well find that the root causes of your eating disorder can be dealt with.
As suggested earlier, hypnotherapy is another method which has been shown to work for many people with eating disorders.
Posting "oh well, tomorrow's another day" on a shaving forum isn't really helping you deal with the issue of regularly consuming twice as many calories as you need.
If you value your family & friends & want to tackle this problem head on, does it not make sense to explore all the options open to you, especially if they've been demonstrated to work for many thousands of people in your situation?

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The issue I have with food is that it's my security blanket. When I have a bad day, it is there to comfort me. I know that it is not right to think that way.

I did talk with my wife about this subject tonight. She brought the subject up to me as on her own she realizes she needs to do this as well. She is working on making sure we have the correct food soon. I hope to share more good news soon.

Maybe she will find this thread and see my thoughts through this battle.

Haggises said:

You don't need to be crazy to see a psychiatrist. That's crazy talk.
If the word psychiatrist is freaking you out, would therapist be better?

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Counselor, mentor, coach....can think of a few others. And I agree, going to see any of these is not a bad idea and doesn't mean you're crazy....the stigma is not attached with going to a therapist or psychiatrist that was there 20 years ago...

kevdogg329 said:

The issue I have with food is that it's my security blanket. When I have a bad day, it is there to comfort me. I know that it is not right to think that way.

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Not to keep harping on the therapist talk, but that right there says volumes. And understand, it's not just you. Many of us turn to "things" (eating, drinking, watching porn, whatever) when we're in need of a hug and can't or won't get it from a human. A therapist could help you recognize when you have those moments, help you find out what triggers them and then help you with ways of finding a more positive outlet than binge eating.

I've seen therapists since I was in college ... when I lost my fiancee five years ago, I'm convinced a good therapist and meds saved my life. There is absolutely no shame in seeking outside help. And it doesn't make you crazy. Though when I'm asked, or when someone says, "You're crazy" I always reply with, "I know, I have papers."

Stay strong pal

It's tough when you're spouse/family isn't on board. It's very difficult to build good habits when you feel like you have to work around others. I'm convinced I'd be in better shape if I was single, but then again that could just be another excuse. I'm just hoping I'm at least setting an example for our kids. I do find it relatively easy to eat healthy for breakfast and lunch Mon-Fri as those meals don't involve my family. I generally have a healthy green protein shake for breakfast a salad with grilled chicken for lunch and some healthy mid morning and afternoon snacks. I try to avoid wheat & sugar as much as possible. At dinner I don't worry about it too much. Whatever the family is having is fine. I figure at least 2/3 meals are super healthy which isn't a bad start. By the time dinner rolls around I've usually only had 800-1000 calories and as long as dinner is 1000-1500 I figure that's okay. Maybe at some point our spouses will be convinced to join us, but until then we do the best we can and keep trying to do a little better.

You could always try a men's group for support if you're against the idea of a therapist. I, ahem, know quite a few guys who participate in them for any number of reasons. It's not kumbaya nonsense, sitting around a circle, banging a drum and holding a talking stick. It's men dealing with whatever issues they want in a supportive environment. That doesn't mean that you won't get called on BS, but it's certainly helped the guys I know who participate in one.

Finally, we're all a little crazy. Just ask our significant others their thoughts about our shaving routine.

kevdogg329 said:

I did talk with my wife about this subject tonight. She brought the subject up to me as on her own she realizes she needs to do this as well. She is working on making sure we have the correct food soon. I hope to share more good news soon.

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That is AWESOME news! It will be a game-changer to have her working with/for you rather than for herself (which happens to work against you). As you well know, having a steady partner during difficult times can make all the difference.

kevdogg329 said:

Maybe she will find this thread and see my thoughts through this battle.

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She certainly will - if you point her to it.

kevdogg329 said:

No I am not. I'm not crazy.

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kevdogg329 said:

The issue I have with food is that it's my security blanket. When I have a bad day, it is there to comfort me. I know that it is not right to think that way.

I did talk with my wife about this subject tonight. She brought the subject up to me as on her own she realizes she needs to do this as well. She is working on making sure we have the correct food soon. I hope to share more good news soon.

Maybe she will find this thread and see my thoughts through this battle.

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It's not about "being nuts" ... it's about finding the right frame of mind to succeed. Why, when you know this is "wrong", do you still see food as your security blanket to get you through tough times? Think in terms of a "sports psychiatrist for food" rather than "I hear voices, Doc, and why is there a penguin coming out of your forehead?"

Kev, we know you are a man of faith so have you considered turning to your church for support? Perhaps talking to your pastor/priest?

Doc4 said:

It's not about "being nuts" ... it's about finding the right frame of mind to succeed. Why, when you know this is "wrong", do you still see food as your security blanket to get you through tough times? Think in terms of a "sports psychiatrist for food" rather than "I hear voices, Doc, and why is there a penguin coming out of your forehead?"

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You see penguins too? I thought I was the only one!

Ru4scuba? said:

You see penguins too? I thought I was the only one!

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Update.

Been offline for most the last 2 days. No MFP, no nothing.

I was given the grocery list and tasked with the shopping. I got some healthier food yesterday. I also bought a food scale to help with portion control. Just by weighing in last night, it showed me that i need to measure more, and not guess.

That's great news. My food scale has been fun to use. I'm almost always under estimating the amount of food I eat so I get to eat more, which makes me less hungry.

Not the best weekend for me. Had friends over on Saturday, a couple drinks too many and then ate way too much. Sunday had hockey super late so I had to have a fourth meal. Yesterday I was actually under my calorie goal by 500 or so, tried to go to bed on time, but the baby was up literally for several hours and I was starving so ate a bunch of food in be middle of the night. So I've regained 4 of the 5 pounds I lost last week.

That's my battle. Great during the week and chaos on the weekend. Getting 4-5 hours of sleep each night and the stress drives me nuts.

kevdogg329 said:

Update.

Been offline for most the last 2 days. No MFP, no nothing.

I was given the grocery list and tasked with the shopping. I got some healthier food yesterday. I also bought a food scale to help with portion control. Just by weighing in last night, it showed me that i need to measure more, and not guess.

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Great start. Portion control is important.

kevdogg329 said:

Update.

Been offline for most the last 2 days. No MFP, no nothing.

I was given the grocery list and tasked with the shopping. I got some healthier food yesterday. I also bought a food scale to help with portion control. Just by weighing in last night, it showed me that i need to measure more, and not guess.

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That's great! I'm really happy to hear that you did the shopping - you moved and had control of what's in your kitchen. Win-win!

Jarick said:

That's great news. My food scale has been fun to use. I'm almost always under estimating the amount of food I eat so I get to eat more, which makes me less hungry.

Not the best weekend for me. Had friends over on Saturday, a couple drinks too many and then ate way too much. Sunday had hockey super late so I had to have a fourth meal. Yesterday I was actually under my calorie goal by 500 or so, tried to go to bed on time, but the baby was up literally for several hours and I was starving so ate a bunch of food in be middle of the night. So I've regained 4 of the 5 pounds I lost last week.

That's my battle. Great during the week and chaos on the weekend. Getting 4-5 hours of sleep each night and the stress drives me nuts.

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Sorry to hear it, Jarick. Stress and lack of sleep make things difficult, but focus on the positive - you netted a loss of one pound for the week. That's better than a sharp stick in the eye (or razor burn)!

Jarick said:

That's great news. My food scale has been fun to use. I'm almost always under estimating the amount of food I eat so I get to eat more, which makes me less hungry.

Not the best weekend for me. Had friends over on Saturday, a couple drinks too many and then ate way too much. Sunday had hockey super late so I had to have a fourth meal. Yesterday I was actually under my calorie goal by 500 or so, tried to go to bed on time, but the baby was up literally for several hours and I was starving so ate a bunch of food in be middle of the night. So I've regained 4 of the 5 pounds I lost last week.

That's my battle. Great during the week and chaos on the weekend. Getting 4-5 hours of sleep each night and the stress drives me nuts.

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I'm much the same....great during the week and then the weekend goes to pot