I grab whatever my wife puts in the shower....(including her from time to time). I think Pantene shampoo/conditioner combo. Does a good job on the hair and softens the heck out of my beard. Nah, there are those who claim that I have Audubon hair...........oughtabeen on a pig's @$$.
My usual two are Brylcreme and the American Crew, but I got a newbie which i am very happy with. The king brown matte pomade. Very easy to use and a great scent.