Tie clip?

**fire_nutz** · 07-29-2012, 02:46 PM

Hey guys,
Time for some advice. I am attending a less than formal wedding in september oddly enough as the "matron of honour" yes I am a man and no Im not sure how this works but the bride wants me to be her matron of honour. Anyway, as I said this is less than formal and I am not required to wear a suit

. It has been requested that I wear black dress shirt with orange tie and khaki pants. My question is weather this is an occasion for cufflinks/french cuff which i love and/or tie clip since I wont be wearing a coat. I need to liven this thing up somehow. They wont listen to my request to "suit up!!!" Any advice on this would be appreciated also, how does one wear a tie clip? never had one before

**Prince** · 07-29-2012, 02:57 PM

Honestly, if you are wearing khaki's, I wouldn't wear french cuffs or a tie clip.

When in doubt, keep it simple.

**The Count of Merkur Cristo** · 07-29-2012, 03:02 PM

Originally Posted by Prince

Honestly, if you are wearing khaki's, I wouldn't wear french cuffs or a tie clip.

When in doubt, keep it simple.

JP:

...and how do I wear a tie-clip?

I don't use a Tack, Clip or Bar, but a Tie Chain with a Mustard Seed.

"A true gent will always wear his [tie] well". Mr. Coward

**cb91710** · 07-29-2012, 03:02 PM

Ditto.

Bad enough wearing the tie with no jacket.

**shaveitoff** · 07-29-2012, 03:52 PM

With no jacket or suit, I'd just wear the (gulp) orange tie without the tie clip. I actually like the colour orange and I like to see it on people, but not as a solid tie (assuming it is anyway). It's the bride's day, so make her happy. BTW, "matron" is still a female term. Ask her if you can be the dude of honour.

If you want to change her mind about wearing a suit, you need to work with the groom and see what he is wearing. If he isn't wearing a suit you can't outshine him. So if the plan right now is not for him to wear a suit, you have to talk him into talking the bride into it. And then she will likely have to reconsider what she is wearing. It won't be easy. Good luck.

**fire_nutz** · 07-29-2012, 09:58 PM

Simple it is then. Thanks for the advice guys. As to a solid orange tie it most certainly will have a pattern

**Jawaburger** · 07-30-2012, 07:33 AM

Originally Posted by cb91710

Bad enough wearing the tie with no jacket.

What?! I am not allowed to wear a tie without a full suit or at least a jacket? My normal work "outfit" is a shirt, tie, slacks and dress shoes! My work is business casual so I feel like I am pushing it even wearing the tie.

**Commander Quan** · 07-30-2012, 03:51 PM

Ask the Bride, and then do whatever your told.

I would also ask for a new title, your not a matron, from the sounds of the ceremony "Dude of Honor" may be more appropriate.

**joshuastar** · 08-03-2012, 12:32 PM

technically speaking, wouldn't you be a Patron of Honor?

Matriarch = mother
Patriarch = father

Or you could request the German word for father: Vater. When you say it people will assume you're making a Star Wars joke.

**Doc4** · 08-03-2012, 01:56 PM

I was all set to launch into some pretty witty barbs about being a matron of honour and "I'm still a man ... honest!" ... and then ...

Originally Posted by fire_nutz

It has been requested that I wear black dress shirt with orange tie and khaki pants.

Two words: Fug Lee.

Honestly, wearing a suit jacket won't salvage that train wreck, nor will French cuffs and a tie bar or whatever. But ... and this is a big, big BUT ... *cough*sirmixalot*cough* ... you do what the bride tells you.

So wear that crap.

Ask her if she minds you "honouring her special occasion by wearing your favourite set of cuff links" ... I assume she'll be down with it, but you have to check, and then ... enjoy the wedding.