Oh as a "western woman" (i'm pretty much as white-bread as they come) I couldn't help but butt in on this one - I love the oudh.... And somehow have managed to get my other half to get me a few as gifts. And he is so not into fragrance. BUT, and of course this is the big BUT, I could be considered a fanatical perfume nut, so maybe a biased response?? Mukhallats from Agar aura may be a safer bet, I have not smelled one I didn't love. The other option is going for a Borneo or fruity Cambodi, less likely to be a problem. Anything from Amouage as others have said - can't go wrong there. by the time you get into rose oils/attars (which are beautiful) you really are going a fair way away from anything smelling like oud though.
But seriously, thanks for the welcome. I keep finding hidden bits of useful discussion on this forum about various fragrances etc.
Maybe it would be not such a bad thing if your wife/ significant other dosen't "get " the whole oud thing, it will certainly be less expensive that way. Maybe if anyone feels guilty about buying these things for themselves they could just wash the dishes/ vacuum? Just a thought..
It's not that I feel guilty. It's just that her dislike for these scents is so intense that it makes for some tough ... interpersonal moments. But that's ok. We'll both survive.
Yes, some of them can be very pungent. I have one of those scent-lockets in which I put some cotton wool with a drop of oud / other fragrance on it sometimes, that way I can just take it off when I need to. The only problem is that not all men wear jewellery and it can be hard finding a masculine scent locket. I know some people put oud on their clothes rather than skin which I'm sure you probably know about.