How do I get my wife to let me smoke cigars?

The one thing that my wife is ademate about me not doing is smoking cigars. I don't know what her problem is, she just says its disgusting.
Well I sneak one in every now and again, but for doing it my den, forget it.
Any advice?

My wife was the same way. She didn't think smoking, per se, was disgusting, but she hated the smell afterwards. We reached a compromise. First, no smoking in the car or house, which was fine with me. I could smoke cigars when we were together outside or, of course, when I was alone or with my friends. If it was really smoky/smelly, she'd ask that I shower before I got in bed. That seemded fair, too, as I didn't want to wake up in sheets that smelled like an ashtray.

You may have noticed that this post is in the past tense. I can't remember the last time I had a cigar. I'm fairly certain the same compromise would apply, though.

Thanks I may try that comprimse if I can work it into the conversation sometime.

I would offer her an alternative. Tell her that instead of smoking the occasional cigar, you'll instead try one of the following activities:

Smoking crack
Shooting heroin
Snorting coke
Running around with prostitutes
Stealing cars
Collecting pornography
Join an underground fight club
Start a venomous snake exhibit in your basement


Etc, etc.

Why do you need permission to do something? You are not asking her to smoke a cigar?

DarthFlader said:

Smoking crack
Shooting heroin
Snorting coke
Running around with prostitutes
Stealing cars
Collecting pornography
Join an underground fight club
Start a venomous snake exhibit in your basement

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Trying to find the downside here

captp said:

Trying to find the downside here

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Yea, thats good stuff!

coffii said:

The one thing that my wife is ademate about me not doing is smoking cigars. I don't know what her problem is, she just says its disgusting.
Well I sneak one in every now and again, but for doing it my den, forget it.
Any advice?

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DarthFlader said:

I would offer her an alternative. Tell her that instead of smoking the occasional cigar, you'll instead try one of the following activities:

Smoking crack
Shooting heroin
Snorting coke
Running around with prostitutes
Stealing cars
Collecting pornography
Join an underground fight club
Start a venomous snake exhibit in your basement


Etc, etc.

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Good luck with this if you want to try it.

I am lucky, my wife will smoke a cigar with me every once in awhile.

I say include your wife in on the decision making - give her a choice. Say, "Honey, I can smoke this in the living room or the family room, which do you prefer"?.

Chris

EL Alamein said:

I say include your wife in on the decision making - give her a choice. Say, "Honey, I can smoke this in the living room or the family room, which do you prefer"?.

Chris

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Which she will reply neither! so you say ok honey patio it is.

after you light one, tell her to go into the kitchen and make you a sandwich.

dbl-haul said:

after you light one, tell her to go into the kitchen and make you a sandwich.

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...Now! Damnit!

Look it's right that you don't need your wife's permission, after all it's your life. Now having said that, I would advise including her in the decision making process so that she is aware of what you do. This removes any feelings of guilt on both sides.

I don't smoke now but once did, my wife smoked when I didn't, but respected my not smoking enough to do it in the garden. I think it's a matter of mutual respect for each other and the realisation that you are living together not living each others lives.

Regards,

Just smoke out on the front porch or back patio. Besides, do you really want your house to smell like stale cigar smoke.

Hope this helps.

Thanks,
Mike

coffii said:

How do I get my wife to let me smoke cigars?

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Move.

Topgumby said:

Move.

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Hahaha I think the statements above are some of the funniest I have ever read on our wonderful forum. All the advice above, except one, while some is good will definetly send you to the dog house. The one that stated communication and her being involved in discussion thats good advice.

DarthFlader said:

I would offer her an alternative. Tell her that instead of smoking the occasional cigar, you'll instead try one of the following activities:

Smoking crack
Shooting heroin
Snorting coke
Running around with prostitutes
Stealing cars
Collecting pornography
Join an underground fight club
Start a venomous snake exhibit in your basement


Etc, etc.

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Sounds like a list of Charlie Sheen's recreational activities...Winning!

I smoked a cigar in my home office once.

The whole room filled with smoke. A drink in a glass left for more than an hour took on stale cigar flavor. I ate some fish n chips with vineger at my desk a day or two later and then it smelled like a pub minus the stale beer scent.

So while the actual sitting back in my chair enjoying the cigar was awesome. The after effects were not.

Maybe you would enjoy sitting on the deck with a comfortable chair instead. The warm weather is coming in soon.

good insight guys. I have to pick my battles. I don't think when we've discuss that I've mentioned doing it outside, which is what I mean.

DarthFlader said:

I would offer her an alternative. Tell her that instead of smoking the occasional cigar, you'll instead try one of the following activities:

Smoking crack
Shooting heroin
Snorting coke
Running around with prostitutes
Stealing cars
Collecting pornography
Join an underground fight club
Start a venomous snake exhibit in your basement


Etc, etc.

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+1

clubbing baby seals
sniffing glue
or the old standby:
If I don't smoke cigars the terrorists win