I won't recommend a particular brand of aftershave because I cannot use balms or creams, plus others have done a great job already. I will piggyback on others' suggestion of witch hazel.
Things have gone to another level since I began using Thayers' astringent prior to my aftershave application. While some brands of aftershave kept my face comfortable for half the day, one in particular was slightly drying -- no more.
For what it's worth, I use the original with aloe.
[B]Razor:[/B] Merkur - HD 34C
[B]Brush:[/B] Vulfix - Pure Badger 1000A (for now)
[B]Scuttle:[/B] Bonnyman Moss
[B]Currently using (a.k.a. my quest to try everything)[/B]
[B]Blade:[/B] Astra - Superior Platinum
[B]Cream:[/B] Fraser - Oriental Spice
[B]Aftershave:[/B] Lustray - Spice