Etiquette question -- elevators

[Gatorade]

But, unfortunately, the doors cannot be opened from inside the stairwell, for security reasons. Bah.

-Mo

That sucks! So you can't even go to the 32nd floor and get 10 flights of exercise can you?

I can see it now. You call for security to open the door on the 25th floor. They ask why. You say because I just climbed this far up and can't make it 17 more floors!

[Edcculus]

I use the same rules on elevators that I use on the subway. Every person for themselves. When there is a lot of people involved, I find it more polite to everyone to just get out of the way rather than trying to be a gentelman. Doing so can create jams and ackwardness.

I will usually let ladies sit on the subway, unless I am coming back during "rush hour" when you are often on for at least an hour or more.

[moses]

I will usually let ladies sit on the subway, unless I am coming back during "rush hour" when you are often on for at least an hour or more.

I am always a little uncertain about that one. while I hold doors, etc., I always feel it is vaguely insulting to offer my seat on the subway to a woman. Not sure why, exactly. I do try to offer it to anyone of either gender who might for any reason have extra difficult standing (injured, elderly, disabled, pregnant come to mind). My doing so is really not gender biased, as a rule. (Pregnant does not count - I promise if I ever see a pregnant man, I will also offer him a seat). I hope I am not being rude. Honestly, the number of times I ever have a seat on the Subway when there are more than a couple of standers is mighty slim. Btw, I do NOT want to get my etiquette from the masses, but in one year riding the subway, I have seen many seats offered to the above, but not a single one offered to a woman who was young, healthy, and not pregnant.

-Mo

[Edcculus]

Yea, I agree Moses. I dont ever give up my seat, unless its to someone who could really use it, like you described. I will remain standing though if there are a ton of people on. It really depends on the situation.

[_JP_]

In crowded situations such etiquette can backfire and cause delays that irritate everybody involved. The best bet is to simply take your turn.

The real problem I encounter with elevators is when I'm trying to get out. The doors open and people waiting to get on try to enter an already full space before anybody exits. Things can get kinda pushy then.

[rtaylor61]

A gentleman offers his seat to a lady, regardless of her condition. This is an interesting thread. Maybe we need to start a new thread on manners.

Randy

[moses]

A gentleman offers his seat to a lady, regardless of her condition.

People always say that.... And I want to agree. But I have a nagging problem with it. No, it's not that I care about my seat. It's just.... Why? I sort of hate rules without a reason. Simply tradition is the justification? But then the tradition is tied to so many negative stereotypes....

But really, that is perhaps for another thread, as this one is about the specialized category of elevator etiquette.

Speaking of which....

This is an interesting thread. Maybe we need to start a new thread on manners.

It has been a little while. And I don't remember where the one a month or two was anyway. Might have been SMF. I have to admit I get confused sometimes.

So maybe it would be not a bad idea, to discuss points like the above.

-Mo

[rtaylor61]

People always say that.... And I want to agree. But I have a nagging problem with it. No, it's not that I care about my seat. It's just.... Why? I sort of hate rules without a reason. Simply tradition is the justification? But then the tradition is tied to so many negative stereotypes....

But really, that is perhaps for another thread, as this one is about the specialized category of elevator etiquette.

Speaking of which....



It has been a little while. And I don't remember where the one a month or two was anyway. Might have been SMF. I have to admit I get confused sometimes.

So maybe it would be not a bad idea, to discuss points like the above.

-Mo

Mo,

No offense meant, but I'm guessing you are a YANKEE! In the south, we are taught to do things a certain way. To respect women, our elders, etc.

Randy

[moses]

No offense meant, but I'm guessing you are a YANKEE! In the south, we are taught to do things a certain way. To respect women, our elders, etc.

GOOD LORD RANDY!!! Don't call me that! I've not been teased about my accent for four years now through law school out west, and work in NYC, and been DAMNED PROUD OF IT, to have my southerness questioned by someone who can't hear me talking. Sure, I'm not from the deep south, but from southern VA, with both parents from Vaguely the Raleigh area. In my admittedly short 27 years, I've NEVER had anyone suggest I was a D***ed Yankee (no offense to you all from the North). Or question whether I was a gentleman, either.

I WAS raised to have manners! Now you have gone and insulted my Mama too. And you did NOT want to do that. She raised my to respect women, my elders, and everyone else who should be respected. But she also raised me to 1) ask questions, and 2) RESPECT women.

-Mo

Edit: Oh yeah. Almost forgot to mention that I started another thread for discussion of the underlying question. Got a little hot under the collar there....

[newtowetshaving]

Mo,

No offense meant, but I'm guessing you are a YANKEE! In the south, we are taught to do things a certain way. To respect women, our elders, etc.

Randy

So you don't respect your fellow man? What happened to the concept of brotherhood?

A true gentleman helps those who need it and does not discriminate based on gender.